Here you can meet couples and singles to have friends with benefits, romances and any other type of casual relationships without commitment and emotional attachment.Hoping to find people to just have casual encounters?They are not waiting on Friday night hoping "he" will call. Not Exactly."It's not that people aren't dating," explained Ms.Rozler, an editorial assistant at Allworth Press when she is not practicing nightclub anthropology. People still want to be in relationships, but they don't want to be settling."But even as they raise pink drinks in the air and roll their eyes at the absurdity of commitment, these are not women embracing sexual abandon."The result of this epiphany: You refuse to put yourself out there.Instead, you just put out." As for the crowd assembled at One, where a party for Stolichnaya thundered in the background, the prospect of a serious relationship before the age of 25 seemed to hold all the appeal of a promotional party with a cash bar."It's not about courtship and the chase," Ms. "It's not that it's a free-for-all like the 60's, but it's about independent women staking their claim, making their mark and doing what they want."Ms. No one's going to say no to making out with a cute guy on a Saturday night."But while the language of the hook-up culture sounds debauched ("Drink Till He's Cute" is one chapter heading), most of the women who will plunk down .95 for the book are children of the 80's.The number in question is the total number of men that a woman has slept with, and the question is on their minds because they were among two dozen or so young Manhattanites who dropped by One Little West 12, a restaurant and club in the meatpacking district of Manhattan, on Tuesday to discuss "The Hookup Handbook: A Single Girl's Guide to Living It Up" by Andrea Lavinthal and Jessica Rozler, published last month (Simon Spotlight Entertainment). Rozler and their friends suggests that mating rituals of the much-celebrated hookup culture, at least as practiced by young professional women, seems to owe as much to Doris Day as to Samantha Jones.
The few men who spoke up seemed to find the elastic nature of the term somewhat tiresome.
"I know a lot of people who will go home with the same guy they have before just because it's not going to raise their number," explained Jennifer Babbit, 26, a publicist."A lot of my friends will say: ' I started having sex with this guy, but it only lasted a minute.
I don't know if it counted,"' offered Beth Whiffen, a former associate editor at Cosmopolitan.
Yes, there are conquests, but there should not be too many of them.
So among this group of women with three-inch heels tipping out of their 0 jeans what is the right number, that is, the last number before you hit the wrong one?