Because “virtual reality” is such a new and relatively untested phenomenon, it’s difficult to know exactly what it to different people.
How is it perceived and experienced, physically, mentally, and emotionally, on the individual level?
You’re also on target in supposing that what is true of mental fantasy is probably even more directly applicable in cases of “virtual” activity.
But having said this, we feel compelled to ask the point?
You can see this clearly if you stop and think for a moment about the first part of your problem.That’s because “relationship” at any level implies a degree of emotional entanglement.When the heart gets drawn into the web, there’s a greater potential for pathology.That doesn’t change the fact that “cybersex,” unlike pornography or masturbation, usually involves another human being. This is where “virtual” sexual activity takes participants to a deeper and more troubling level.In some cases, “virtual” technology enables online lovers to live out their passions in a vivid and all-consuming way. To that extent it can’t help but take on a certain “relational” aspect.Is it really a more serious problem than, say, addiction to online pornography?To put it bluntly, can it be regarded as adulterous, does that mean that it gives the violated partner biblical grounds for divorce?This case spells out the design paradigm of studying individuals in one of the most stigmatized and sensitive groups in modern society—individuals who sell and buy sex in cyberspace in the form of compensated dating.The case elaborates the research processes from collecting data through cyber-ethnography to off-line participant observations, and in-depth interviews.Is he repentant and willing to change his behavior? You should also find out if your spouse’s involvement with “cybersex” is part of a larger pattern of behavior.If it part of a bigger syndrome, there are other questions you should be raising before jumping to the conclusion that it’s time to get a divorce. Is the abuse so severe that you feel as if your personal safety (and that of your children, if you have any) is being compromised? Meanwhile, we’d encourage you to confront your husband about his unacceptable behavior.