There’s a whole industry devoted to telling you how to be better in bed – instruction manuals, videos, well-meaning sex gurus and counsellors who seem to think lube and sensual massage is the answer to everything.But what about when it comes to what to do after sex?Tread carefully, obviously; don’t go full-on “disgruntled holidaymaker on Trip Advisor” on their ass.
Some schools of thought say higher testosterone levels after sex mean you can go all-out in the gym after and help with muscle building.The adrenaline subsides, your breathing returns to normal, you’ve both been in the animalistic throes of passion – but now you’re yourselves again. Feedback is important for most things – if constructive it can guarantee you a good time, every time.Don’t be afraid to say what you liked, or would like to try next time.I think I’d agree to marry/hand over all my passwords to/rob a bank for anyone who, straight after doing it, turned to me, waggled their mobile phone in my face and said, "Shall I order a pizza?"As euphoric as the post-coital period can be, that miserable buzzkill hormone prolactin is waiting in the wings to bring you down from that high.Think of it as replacing energy for a potential replay.Eating together afterward is a bonding experience; you can sit together mutually contented, enjoying another sensory satisfaction without having to make much effort.Scientists say it’s fairly common to feel a temporary loss of attraction for your other half after sex – admit it, these science guys are when it comes to finding excuses for being unaffectionate.This power-down is supposed to help the body realign itself and get back to a normal state so you’re not lost in post-coital bliss and neglecting your duties – which is a very "science from the back of a shampoo bottle" way to say it's fine to want to wander off and play Fortnite before the wet patch is dry. ” you can message them later, after hours of their not returning your calls. Sex on the first date can be liberating and exciting.“It can help you break down your own personal biases around sexuality, heal shame from the past, and improve your sexual self-esteem,” says Chavez.