I must confess, I had no idea how to go about dating my daughter until my mentor, a father of five boys and three girls, gave me some advice that not only transformed my relationship with my now 14-year-old stepdaughter but ultimately earned me the right to be called her “Daddy.” For Dads looking for the perfect night out with their daughter, here are four things to remember.Make sure your daughter knows she can share anything with you and you won’t criticize or be angry with her when she does.No, I won’t hide in the backseat or stalk you when you’re with my daughter, but she and I have an agreement that she checks in often with home, and lets me know where she is and where she’s going.Also, secret meetings and clandestine adventures will be discovered—I have my ways! What rules do you have for someone dating your daughter?So, get the door for her, look me in the eye when you talk to me, and please don’t let your britches fall down so low that I have to look at your underwear band.
Personally, I try to pretend I’m Faythe’s her heart.Sure my daughter is fun, but she’s also a student, and in our house, school comes before fun.That means she won’t be going with you to the mall, the movies or out to dinner on a school night.For instance, “You’re growing into a beautiful young woman, and some man is going to be so lucky to marry you someday.” And just for good measure, I personally end every daddy-daughter date by holding Faythe’s hand and praying over what we’ve talked about during our date.And I try to keep the prayer short and just about her. But even more challenging when you’re the father of a 14-year-old stepdaughter.My stepdaughter Faythe’s biological father abandoned her when she was only 6 years old, and it shattered her tender heart into a million pieces. Our bodies change on testosterone treatment to become more masculine. I am really comfortable with myself as a guy, so I often joke about my transition with my girlfriend and friends. Many people are unaware that the clitoris grows into a small penis on testosterone, and there is a surgery that works to enhance what you have naturally, called the metoidioplasty. [Have your child sign i MOM’s Cell Phone Contract.] I know, the style is to be cool and distant.But if you want to spend time with my girl, I will insist that you treat her like a lady.